It’s typical for the typical Igbo man to assume his life is incomplete and not using a male youngster.
Read this man’s message to me on the matter:
“A good friend of mine is in a multitude. His issues began when his spouse left him. They had been having points as a result of, based on him, the lady was cantankerous, and he typically dreaded their bed room as a result of she had a behavior of stripping herself bare to put curses on him and people she claimed had been enabling him to interrupt their house.
“She would do that whereas strolling round with flaming-coloured candles in hand. It received so dangerous that he rented a small condominium the place he typically stayed to calm down. In no time, he discovered himself a companion in a younger girl he had assisted up to now.
“Meanwhile, his spouse needed to journey to her hometown with their son (who has particular wants). Some days later, he was instructed that the boy (aged 15) by chance drowned in a swimming pool.
“His spouse got here again, accused his lover of being behind their son’s dying, packed her belongings, and left their matrimonial house. The boy was their solely son; the others are ladies.
“The girl now occupying his rented condominium had been pregnant for him just a few occasions however had miscarriages. One day, the identical girl returned from a prayer outing and instructed him it was revealed to her that as a result of curse his spouse positioned on him, he would by no means be capable of get any girl pregnant once more.
“He stated he was so disturbed (as a result of he actually needed a son) that he took a break from the girl for some time. Around that point, he met one other girl (a one-night stand) however discovered himself actually drawn to her, and very quickly, he rented an condominium for her.
“The lengthy and wanting it’s that this new girl grew to become pregnant across the similar time he realised his different lover was additionally pregnant. Both girls have since given delivery. The second girl had a child woman, however the one dwelling with him had a boy. He is planning to marry her, however he doesn’t have the assist of his household.
“According to them, the individual his spouse accused of killing their brother’s son shouldn’t develop into a part of their household. He truly likes the second girl extra however is grappling with guilt in regards to the different girl.
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“He claimed she has gone via rather a lot making an attempt to offer him a son. Otherwise, he has plenty of complaints about her. For instance, he stated she nags as a lot as his first spouse.
“And their area has develop into a house to her lazy siblings and their mom. Almost all of them reside in that home now, and all they do is eat and watch tv every day, as none of them work.
“He additionally stated this girl doesn’t work, but she has very costly tastes. According to him, not one of the hair she buys is lower than N350,000. She additionally defrauds him by inflating family bills.
“He said it’s actually in the space of the other lady that he finds a semblance of peace, coupled with the fact that she is very clean and a good cook. What’s your advice to him? He is an Igbo man.”
From Oby
If male youngsters had been destined to play extra vital roles in your life, life would have given them to you. But if all you may have are daughters, know they’re those you will have in your life.
God is aware of what He is doing, and what He is doing is one thing that solely time will reveal. It took my dad and mom’ outdated age for me to grasp this Igbo adage, “nwanyi bu nwa” (a daughter is value it).
At a sure level in a mother or father’s life, it gained’t matter which youngster is male or feminine. What will matter is which youngster cares.
So, the kid life has given you is strictly who you will have in your life.
If this man conducts a DNA check on these newborns, he could also be shocked that one and even each don’t belong to him as a result of he’s coping with determined girls who see him as a meal ticket and would do something to latch onto him for financial survival.
I hope he has finished an entire examine on his well being standing!
His desperation for a male youngster in all probability contributed to his spouse’s emotional imbalance.
Frankly, a male youngster isn’t sufficient cause to deliver a cantankerous or thoughtless girl beneath his roof.